Marius Barnard: How not to Choke-Marius-Barnard-How-not-to-Choke

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A former tennis player and coach explains how lessons from high-pressure tennis moments apply to sales and executive coaching. He describes his own struggles with choking under pressure, especially when match point or winning a sale felt too important. Using stories from his career, he shows how fear, self-judgment, and overdeveloped traits like hyper-achieving and people-pleasing can cause athletes and professionals to freeze and abandon their natural game.<br /><br />He introduces “Positive Intelligence,” a coaching model that helped him recognize saboteurs and improve self-awareness. A key tool is the PQ rep: a short mindfulness exercise using breathing and touch to shift from emotional reactivity to calmer, clearer thinking. He also highlights five “sage powers”: empathize, explore, innovate, navigate, and activate. These skills help people manage conflict, understand others, and focus on meaningful outcomes rather than anxiety.<br /><br />He shares tennis examples, including losing 17 match points in one match and later learning to stay present and process-focused. He also notes that even champions like Federer and Nadal have struggled under pressure. His main message: don’t become overly attached to outcomes, recognize your unique pressure responses, and use pressure as a privilege rather than a threat.

Keywords

tennis

pressure

sales coaching

executive coaching

positive intelligence

mindfulness

self-awareness